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Divorce?
If I bought something for the child as a gift it is theirs.
I can't believe someone actually posted that you get a check each month so send them on. Please, I spend twice that on children everytime they come to me without tooth brushes, toothpaste, underwear, deoderant, school supplies, etc, etc.
Specific gifts belong to the child. It is not selfish to want to keep the movies. My home was recently broken into by a previous foster child. She took only things she knew would upset me and of course, there is nothing I can do because I have no proof it was her.
She took all my movies! This day it is very hard to find clean approporate moves for children. I don't buy many but I buy the ones I know I will watch often. It adds up to a lot of money.
I have not been able to replace most of the movies she took because after about 6 months, they are no longer available. The good ones can be ordered over the internet, at twice the original price. I figure she took about 30 movies and the cost to replace will be over $800.00.
Also, you may have many many children before you are able to adopt. Plus you may take short term to help out DFACS. So if you give every one of them the things they say are theirs, you will likely have an empty home.
Also, pack her your self. Most kids suddenly think I am the local Walmart and take everything within reach. I mean everything. Every extra pen I have, tape, picture frames, every single sanitary napkin, extra tooth brushes, shampoo, rinse, toothpaste even things that decorated the bedroom that were mine and had nothing to do with them. If she is going to a permanante home back to a parent it is time for them to step up to the plate and support the kids. Those things cost money to replace and I try to always keep extra of all of them.
Let's look at it this way, are you going to buy a new bed everytime a kid comes and then leaves and let them take that with them?
Be reasonable but look to the future. You do need those things for future children if you are continuing to do this.
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