[cartergr]

Thank you Soul Whisper. Tulip, please don't be offended but consider the above post and the following.

We are concurrent foster parents to two beautiful girls. We love them and do our best to care for them. We went into this agreement knowing that they will likely go back to their father, but if that isn't possible, we're ready to adopt them.

We work hard to accomodate the BF's wishes and work to help him get his kids back.

If you were to listen only to the Bio Father, the story would sound very much like your friend's story. He complains that we don't tell him anything, are conspiring with CWS to "steal" his girls and so on. He's even gone so far as to suggest we're planning to kidnap his kids. Nothing could be further from the truth. We keep him informed about everything to do with his girls. He "doesn't remember" the things we tell him, and "loses" the medical documentation we provide him. His girls were removed for neglect. There is ample documentation to support this. They have been diagnosed as "failure to thrive" by a recognized authority on high-risk children. The father claims that there was no neglect, he had simply fallen on hard times and CWS is trying to steal his kids to give them to us. He has many people convinced that it's the truth. The truth is very different. We are very accomodating to his wishes, even cancelling trips we've had planned for months because he's uncomfortable with us taking the girls out of state.

For what it's worth... there are always two sides to every story.

Please accept this in the spirit it was intended, not as an accusation against your friend, but as an example of what the same story can look like from different perspectives.