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Originally Posted By Waiting in TN

I'm far from an expert, but I found what seemed to me like possible RAD signs in a 12-yr-old child we'd been selected for last year, and so I began asking more questions. The responses to the questions seemed to support my hunch, so we decided not to be matched. I may have been wrong, but I'd read so much about it that I had to follow my hunch.

The signs were some phrases in a psych evaluation -- "has traits that may signal a future personality disorder", "can be syrupy sweet", were a couple I remember. A mention of her being "rough" with animals. And I found virtually nothing positive to balance those comments out. No mention of her ever having any attachment with anyone. She was being placed with a younger brother, but in the pictures of them, he had an arm around her, while hers were wrapped around herself. I got an appointment for a phone conference with her therapist, but he didn't keep it; he finally called 2 weeks later, and left a very curt disinterested message without leaving his phone number.

Still, I have wondered if I jumped to the wrong conclusion. Also, having read about successful RAD therapy, I no longer consider it necessarily a hopeless condition, as I did at first. Just my 2 cents.