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I don't really know how to start - so please bear wtih me.

My husband and I are looking to adopt. We can't afford the $30,000 for an infant or international adoption. Unfortunately, we haven't found any domestic infant agencies that have a more modest price.

We looked into foster to adopt because it is not crucial that we adopt a baby. Although, we do want a younger child. I have read on the state website that 75% of adoptions in our state occur through the foster care system. I spoke to the local foster care / adoption agency and was told that we cannot do foster care for the state because of where we live (military base).

I have been unable to find an advocate in the foster care system here nor in the military system. I just don't know where to turn or what else to do.

I am also a bit scared because I have become somewhat obsessed with the idea of adoption and trying to find someone who has some insight.

THe bit of advice that I did receive from the foster care / adoption caseworker was that if I found a woman who did not want to raise her child/children, then I could possibly adopt him/her/them. I found this information not very helpful because if I knew someone,then I would not have needed someon elses assistance. He also told me that I should move - that is not possible.

I am not wishing for anyone to reply about their thoughts of the military - just the adoption issue.


Thank you for letting me ramble.