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thank you all for the responces, unfortunatly we don't have a direction to go in until we recieve the court ordered assessment with recommendations, then I guess that is what we are legally obligated to do.
SoulWhisper: my daughter was not play acting or curious, she was asleep when it happened. That is her story and he confirmed it. She woke up when it was happening and stayed "play asleep" because she was scared. She did not instigate something and then change the story to "please" me.
LucyJoy: We have a caseworker at DFYS, he is "monitoring" the situation to make sure we are taking appropriate actions, but he hasn't been very involved because thus far we are doing everything we are legally required to do such as removing him from the home and taking him to see his probation officer weekly. There is no treatment plan until the assessment is compiled, so we're in wait. I was going to contact him though to see what he could tell me about options and finances. I know the doc who did the pschosexual eval is $100 an hour and doesn't bill Medicaid and my insurance pays only 50% of MH apts, which will leave me with a very substantial bill if he has a long and involved treatment which I would think he would. I also want to talk to him about how residential treatment would be paid for if that's the route we go.
Patrisha: You understand what it is to take a child who has already been tossed away, I don't want to be yet another person who throws him away like garbage, who lets him down, but I"m really torn because of the severity of what he did. The initial assessment indicates he may have been sexually abused by one of his mom's boyfriends, which I found shocking. There is a family rumor that his paternal grandfather is a molester so that's who I would have thought did it to him. Granted we don't know much yet, and hopefully will know more soon, but no, I don't think the abuse was recent. And yes, these boys were my daughter's brothers, still are. She's very hurt and confused and scared. I hate to think that this will be some defining point of her childhood, you know?
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