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I agree with the last post, it's not about the videos. I know because I have been there. We had a foster son, who we where in the process of adopting, when he went to live with another birthfamily member. We spent a lot of money on name brand clothes, toys, videos and video games, he had come with a few things that had been purchased at a second hand store. When he went to live with his extended bfamily I didn't want to give him all that stuff, because I was hurt and thought I was purchasing the stuff for our son, not our "foster" son. I then realized, so what. I bought him the stuff because I love him and wanted him to have those things, not to save for any future kids (although you are right, they would have been here for our future children). The "reason" you bought her those things was out of love I'll bet.......so IMHO I'd let them go with her because I'm sure you still love her. I know it hurts, but is material things worth possibly hurting your relationship. She is only 7, and those things mean a lot to her, and in her "magic" thinking, she may think I only mattered when I was there, and question the true love you have for her.
This is my experience and what I mulled over, you do what you need to. Good luck, I hope it works out, I understand your pain.....
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