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We have adopted a child who tried, on numerous occasions, to hurt and/or kill our other children. He is very mentally ill, and when he was placed here, we had no idea of his past history of this kind of behavior. I know somewhat of how you feel, because our son now lives in a residential home. He is making no progress; but they will continue to try. Everyone knows that we refuse to allow him to come back home and live here-------even if he did make progress. I love him in my own way; but he is a dangerous person to be around. The facility will help him as much as they can, and when he is of age, they will help him transition as much as possible. Not a great situation, I agree......but, sadly, the safest solution for our family. And....as Lucy asks, 'Should your daughter have to live with her abuser?'
Truly, when dealing with this type of behavior.........one must consider all the members of the family......not just the 'ill child'. Lucy is right on the mark when stating that because you did not adopt him, he may be able to have services w/o bankrupting your family.
I wish you the best. I know this is not easy.
Most sincerely,
Linny
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