Thanks that has helped!!
I have just found out that my mother had a son when she was in her early twenties and put him up for adoption. He contacted her a few days ago - after searching for her for 15 years. I am not sure what to think. While I am happy for her that now a missing piece of her life is found and also sad and shocked for what she has had to go through, i am also a little angry that my sister and I were never told of this before. I can understand her reasons for keeping it in the past - maybe she was afraid he didn't want to be contacted by her - or she found it too difficult to deal with - i also can't beleive she never tried to look for him.
My sister and I are not sure how to deal with this. Will he be angry at us? After all, she kept us and loved us but gave him away? Its strange too to find that I suddenly have a brother I always wnated and now a sister-in-law and a neice and nephew. I can understand what you say about feeling cheated out on having a brother too!! My sister I think is having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that she is no longer the eldest child!
It obvious he is rapped to have finally found my mother - his mother... I am not sure how I should accept him into my life.
And I know that mum is very happy to have found him - more so than she is letting on. I can't imagine the heartache she must have gone through over the years and now what she will have to go through trying to get over any guilt she may feel for giving him up so long ago.
Did your brother know he was your brother? Or did he always think you were cousins?