This message was originally posted by
megwing.
Congratulations! What good news! :-)
I think allowing continued contact is a good idea, in whatever form you are comfortable with. For one thing, your daughter won't have to always wonder who her birth dad was and he'll be able to answer questions about her history that she may really want to know. Also, it is always helpful for you to be able to contact him because there may be questions about medical history and what not that you haven't thought of yet, but will want to know later.
Just my two cents... I hope that you are able to find some compromise that works for you... Have you asked the dad what kind of arrangement he'd hope for? Maybe his desires aren't that far off from what you'd like after all...
Megan