This message was originally posted by
samueljr4577.
I have posted on being a new single dad foster parent and have recieved so much support from everyone. I am posting my update and my new situation here because I have so much that has happend since I last posted.
Update:
I decided that I was not ready to adopt my first placement foster son. Currently he will be visiting with three different families who want to adopt him. I am helping him through this and being very patient and supportive through his emotional roller coaster of finding a place to call home. His social worker is allowing me to be part of his life always with weekend visits after he is adopted. The short time that I have had with him has formed a bond of father and son and I can trully say that I will always want to be part of his life. Although my extended family wanted me to adopt him I knew that I was not ready to make a lifelong commitment to this wonderful child. He deserves a permanant home and loving family. I know that I could of given him this but I also know that he would be better off with parents who are sure that they want him as their son. As a foster parent I knew that the decision to become a foster parent was no hesitation on my heart to do this. As an adoptive father for a child I have still an aprehensiveness to adopt because I personally feel I am not ready. So for now I am helping my son find his family and will be part of this every step of the way. In the meantime he is my son as long as he is im my home. In my heart he is my son and he knows this.
4/15/02
I was called by my agency to place a 7 year old caucassion male in my home. He has been in foster care since November 2001. He has multiple placements because of his behavior in school. He will not stay in the classroom and runs out of the room into a busy street or the park behind the school. For the past few weeks my agency worker has helped me by providing support to sit with my 7 year old in the classroom. This has been unsucessful leading to a 5150 case of my foster son putting himself and others indanger by throwing desks and chairs and banging his head on the wall. He has also threatend to kill himself several times. Just last night on 4/27/02 he was released from a mental health treatment center which he was admitted on friday 4/26/02. The therapist realeased him to me because of my dedication to this child. I have taken the next several weeks from work because my son can not attend school due to the principals request. Hopefully medication will help him and he will be able to return to school.
I am about to loose my job because of this situation I have not been able to be at work. I want to help him and will stay by his side but what do I do about my job?