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I'm not sure what words were used, but probably she said 'will you buy me Such-n-such video, please please please!' and I probably said 'how much does it cost? well, okay, we can buy it'.
There are only her and me, no other kids, so naturally any video was for her to watch.
I think she knows they aren't really hers, because of the way she announced they were, sounded like a junior lawyer, i don't remember her exact words, but it was like 'all the videos you had before are yours and all the ones you bought since i came are mine!' She made the announcement out of the blue while rinsing/spitting out toothpaste in the bathroom, I was taken by surprise, not having thought about the issue at all, and popped out with maybe she could have half. Then she dashed for the bookcase that has the videos. We then had a spirited exchange of 'no that one's mine!' while pulling almost all the videos off the bookcase (where she remembered she didn't like Treasure Planet very much and 'generously' offered to allow me to keep that one), followed by me hauling her off to bed in giggles.
But I anticipate the discussion will become more serious when the time to move gets closer. So I want to know what is fair. Fair to her, fair to me, and fair to the future kid(s).
This was my first experience as a foster mom (or as any kind of mom), so I didn't realize I had to announce ownership at each purchase.
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