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Lesley,
My mother in law does Not like me either, I know how you husband must feel, It's hard in situations like this and I am not sure if I can be much help we have just started our adoption process, and for a little over a year now we have not had any contact with them other than I will send her a christmas card. We had decided when this all happened that we where not going to have our children around them unless they changed, as it turned out we have infertility issues, and we are starting an adoption process. Because both the rest of our families agree that ny husbands mother is "being bad" (don't really know what to call it) and that the nasty e-mails she has sent me are even worse, they have all agreed not to pass the news of our adoption in case it may get into the worng ears and back to her, we don't want to deal with her at this time, and don't want her to pretent to make a mends with us just to hurt us and our child again. It was hard for us to make this desicion, as when I was a baby My mom's mom was the same with my dad. She even said that she didn't want anything to do with us right after I was born. She ended up ill with cancer and on her death bed wanted to meet me, but it was too late. I was lawyas kinda mad that I didn't get to meet her, but in the situation I am in a respect my parents choice when I was a baby. The way I see it is that "no company is better than bad company" and that the child is what is most important. I hope this help if only a little. I will pray for you and that god help you and your family make the right choice, and help you mom to be happy with her new grandaughters. Good luck and god bless you!