[bromanchik]

I agree with Soul Whisperer. Forgiveness is something we do for ourselves. In forgiving her you are bringing yourself peace and being an example to your children.

HOWEVER, forgiving does not mean you have to trust your mother with your children or take any abuse. "Honoring" her does not mean rewarding her rude behavior. You need to create definate boundries. That nastyness will not be tolerated. That you and your family will leave or she will be asked to leave if she does not behave politely.

There is a great book by Lewis Smedes called "The Art of Forgiveness". It is a great book and written from a Christian perspective.