[sherryk]

Dear Stacy,

I can feel your emotions in your post. It is the hardest thing feeling like you are letting down a child that needs a home. Also, it is difficult feeling like you weren't told the truth about this little girl's development.

Listen to your heart. It's OK to say "no" to this child. There could be another couple out there better equipped to handle this child just waiting for her. I'm not saying this to put you down in any way... you said yourself "you are having second thoughts on whether you can handle this or not."

Just because you say "no" to this child doesn't mean there won't be another child in your near future. A couple from our support group said "no" to a sibling group because the boy had bipolar disorder and was hiding in a closet most of their home visit. The girl was wonderful. They felt horrible saying no. For one reason, they desired to know/love the little girl. A couple months later, they were matched with two beautiful little girls. It is a wonderful match! Their eyes shine when talking about their girls (they were looking for a boy at first.)

Blessings to you! Please post again! You have support and encouragement here!

sherryk
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