Reunited,
Sorry to confuse issues.....
No, I haven't spoken to Mary Ellen directly. My information about her relinquishment comes from my CI, my aunt and my cousin. Mary Ellen lived with my aunt at the time I was born, and my aunt was with her at the hospital when I was born. I have no reason, based on Mary Ellen's actions, at the time of my contact, or now, to believe that she ever wanted or desired to be "found". She didn't want to parent my sister, either....she was born right after me, and my grandmother took her in for several years until Mary Ellen finally married her present husband. She was perfectly willing to put Debbie up for adoption at the time, but my grandmother stepped in and said she wouldn't allow another one of "hers" to be sent away.
My whole point was just to say that not
ALL birthmoms were coerced and forced to relinquish their children......some were perfectly happy with the decisions they made. Their "side of the story" is rarely recounted because the birthmothers who relinquished freely made a decision that was right for them. They aren't in pain today.....they aren't out here, looking for support because they don't
NEED any.
I am thankful for that -- there is far too much pain in the world today as it is! I am glad when people make good decisions for themselves and continue to be happy with them many years down the road!
Hugs,
Sally