I have been so excited ever since we decided to adopt. I think about it every day and talk about it alot. My husband never was the one to bring it up or anything. One day I asked him if he ever thought about the adoption. He replied that he does but he doesn't think about it all the time.
Then after our second home study meeting with our social worker we were standing in the kitchen and I saw tears in his eyes. I asked him what was wrong, and he said he was just so happy we are doing this!!
My friends husband acted much like you describe yours does. It would frustrate her so much at times! Then about three weeks before their baby was due he completely changed. Got very talkative, started buying things for the baby on his own.
I think maybe men guard their hearts more than we do. I think it will all be fine in the end.
I also think men tend to think of the finances more too.
Best to you,
Judy