Babs,
I don't think you can actually make a blanket statement that says
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Don't forget, WE were FORCED to give our chhildren up, by our parents and Society.
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just because the birthmothers groups you belong to don't have any members who chose to give up their children freely.
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I have been a member of two birthmother's groups for 2 and a half years with 100's of birthmothers and not one gave theirs up by choice
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As Deb pointed out, those who relinquished freely don't usually join support groups, or post to forums like this. They were happy with the decisions they made, and continue to
BE happy with them now. They don't have a
need be out there seeking support or being active in groups because they are perfectly happy with the choices they made and have gone on to live wonderful, happy lives. There's not a thing wrong with that....it's as it should be for them.
I was born in 1964 and there was absolutely no such thing as "open adoption".....my birthmother was 21 years old when she gave birth to me. She had no desire to parent at that time and she gave me up freely. Anonymity was of UTMOST importance to her...she had NO DESIRE to be "found". She totally wigged out when my CI contacted her, and she denied any form of contact with me. She even had all the paperwork from the state sent to her sister's house, so there would be no chance of her own address being on anything.
So, in short, not "ALL" birthmothers were "FORCED" to give up their children by their parents and society. Many did so of their own free will and are quite happy having done so -- my own, included.
Hugs,
Sally