[Shoshana]

Thought I'd chime in.

My parents & sister met my birth mother and bio-"1/2" sisters for the first time (shortly after the reunion). An outside observer would've have thought, "oh, my gosh, who ARE these uptight people." Their discomfort was almost palpable. But it didn't last.

It took a lot of work on my part to continually reassure my sister that SHE was the sister I grew up with and would always be my REAL sister. Ditto for my mother but I'd been helping her with it since the beginning of my search so the first meeting was easier for her than for my sister.

It also helped ALOT that my birth mother realized my sister/parents were scared and she was SO kind and patient with them -- she expressed HER interest in knowing them and reassured them of their importance.

Now, it's a moot point and everyone gets along (and thankfully it didn't take long to get to that point.).

My advice to you is to reach out to your sister now and mend the bridges (yes, even if you know she was "wrong" ). She may need a lot of extra care and reassurance right now if the future's going to be any different. It would be really sad to let her worst fears come true, e.g., her fear that she'll loseyou.

Best of luck with your reunion!