Thank you THREE so much for replying!
I'm sorry I didn't post this thank you sooner. I just started a new job last week...lame excuse.
Reading your insights really helped, and I realized that I never talked to my a-sister about it afterward. Yes, she was rude, and after that meeting, we never discussed it again.
I almost feel embarrassed now to bring it up. As for communication - I have reassured my a-sister MULTIPLE times that this won't change my relationship with her.
But it sort of has, because now I am keeping things from her.
Again - thank you for responding! I am sure there are lots of other people going through this too...and it helps to read this stuff!
Love me