Hello again. I want to thank you for your replies. I had called a lawyer today about adopting my step son. He said I have a great chance in getting it done, but I first needed to talk to him about it. We came home from football practice, ate dinner then we talked. I told him who I called today and he was pretty excited. I had asked him if he knew what an actual adoption was. He asked me to explain it. This is what I said.. I told him first of all, no matter what his decision was, it's not wrong. I said it will cut all ties with his mom and half brothers ( who by the way, doesn't see or call either, they're over 21 & one is in prison), and we'd get our number changed, and until he is moved out of the house these rules would keep. He kept asking..."when do we go to court?" I said "George, would you please think about this because once it's done, we won't change it back." He asked me if he could talk to his school counselor about it and i said no problem. Just think about it. His bio mom has put him through enough crap his whole life. I've been married to his dad for 3 1/2 years and I'm tired of seeing this being done to him. We have a wonderful, stable home and we want to keep it this way. Who knows what will happen...but that's the chance I'm willing to take. We'll just have to wait and see!
Thanks again for your input. I'll keep you posted.
Melissa
By the way, after he got off the phone with his mom, he came and told me about their conversation and said she's still messed up. She has a new set of twins, and she can't even call me.