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I allways wonder what I would tell my child after we find him or her about the whole adoption situation. I believe honesty is the best policy. Just make sure the honesty is age appropriate. Never tell your child thier birth mom didn't want them, and didn't care if they lived or died. I would re-word that into something like "well, daddy and I had been waiting for someone to bring our angel to us, and there was a young woman who must have heard our prayer. She knew she couldn't take care of you, and she was scared, so she left you where she knew you would be found and eventually be brought to us." As the child gets older it may be easier to explain that the birth mom didn't want to be contaced because she must have felt it would be best to let her baby complete the family she went to without worrying about her. Let the child know it was a very hard and very brave thing for the birthmom to do, leaving her child to be found by you. The child never needs to thik they weren't cared for, they just need to know they are wanted and loved.
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