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"I'm far too chicken (which is nutso, 'cause *they're* the ones being rude!)"
They may be rude but we don't have to come down to that level also!
It's because of comments others have made to us that helps me want to fight even more for my daughter.
When we first inquired about adopting, the worker at DFS that "eventually" returned my call told me that they probably would not have the kind of children we would be interested in. HOW would they know? They didn't even know anything about us. I felt very strongly about adopting and had I backed away because of her comments we wouldn't have our daughter. We didn't feel as though DFS took us seriously, so we did most of our searching ourselves and found our daughter at an adoption fair.
Having her has been like being on a roller coaster that never stops. People who have made the "saint" comments to us make me wonder about them because they really have no idea what we have dealt with and really don't understand how often we have doubted ourselves. The up side is how much she has given us. When we see her making progress even in the smallest ways we are happy for her not ourselves.
Just as some people can not understand how you could raise a child that you didn't give birth to, I have a hard time understanding why someone couldn't. I love others in my life that are not tied to me through blood lines, why not someone elses child.
Last night my 15 yr. old daughter gave me my first kiss good night. I waited for 3 years for her to feel comfortable to do that. Those are the rewards adoptive parents get!
Robin
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