We too are looking for an open adoption and sometime with our support group I find myself very quiet about my true wishes. I find most people we meet find open adoption a curious situation. I often wonder what is wrong with knowing who your bmom/bfather is and their family. We have small families, so I hope for the child we adopt we can have a close relationship. I vision taking a trip together, getting together for holidays etc... What is most important is the child feeling loved and wanted. That is what is most important to me.
What I worry about myself is am I being too fantasy in my thinking? My questions for bmom is there a sense of privacy they want for thieir lives. When a family says they want an open adoption, do the birthmoms want a separation?
darene