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Hang in there Kim ...
Originally Posted By CarolBird, BIRTHFAMILY SUPPORT FORUM, Experts Group
Dear Kim:
What a heartbreaker! I'm so sorry your birthmother is behaving so weirdly. At age 80, I'm wondering if she might not be experiencing a bit of dementia. It just doesn't make sense that she couldn't AT LEAST provide medical information. I wonder if you can't go around her and try to obtain information from your half-sibs.
I am e-mailing you an article that might give you a little insight into how she is thinking, but the only thing that strikes me is that she is (typical of her generation) ashamed. She played "loose" and got caught. I wonder if any of the other children remember her being pregnant with you ... were they old enough?
Anyway, you might want to try getting the addresses of the sibs and writing to them.
In the meantime, read the article I'm sending, and I'll scout around to see if there is anything else I can find that might give you some support. Maybe Joe Soll's book, Adoption Healing, would be of some help.
Know that there are many of us ... birthmothers and adoptees ... who are with you in spirit and ache along with you.
Hugs and love, Carol Bird
Birthmother in reunion 15 years.
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