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Originally Posted By Kim

I had been searching for 15 years, looking at faces of people and wondering that somewhere out there I have a blood related family. In the non-identifying information that I recieved from the SC DSS, I learned that I had 4 half brothers on my mothers side and 3 on my fathers side. My birth mother was a widow and dating my birth father. Her 4 sons father died in an accident at work 4 years before I was born.
I decided to hire someone to find my birth mother so that I could get medical history on the family and possibly reunite if it was okay with my birth mother.
The Intermediary that I hired found in a week and she sent her a letter from me with pictures. Later, she recieved a phone call from my birth mother stating that she has had a lot of sleepless nights since the locater first contacted her.
She decided to send the letter and the pictures back, and she declined my request for family medical history.
I am 35 years old and I have an 11 year old son, and no medical history at all. I understand her being affraid to tell her sons of me, but they are older now and I am sure they would understand, since they all have children of there own.
I did not ask to be born, and I don't think that what I am asking for is so bad and that SKELETON that she has hung in her closet since 1965, is hurting and upset and confused as to why she can't give me just the medical history.
I would like to meet my birth brothers one day and I would have liked to of met her, but she is 80 years old and still hiding from the past. Thank you for lisening, Kim