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We chose a name for our daughter when we adopted her at 7 mos. It was a name I had wanted for a daughter since I was young. Her birthmother when we met seemed a little disappointed that we wanted to give the baby a new name and asked if we would at least keep one of her names, so we kept a middle name the birthmom had chosen, adding another middle name to honour both my husband's mom, and the birthmom - they have the same name.
Our daughter is now 7. She understandably only knows the name we gave her. She knows why she has the middle names that she does.
For your child, under 2 years of age, I think you are doing the right thing. Different yet similar. I have seen posted here before, that she is YOUR child and you should get to name her. But I think the birthmom should have some input as well; so for me, you are addressing both your wishes and hers.
Good luck to you all
Babs
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