Originally Posted By
Carol Bird, Birthfamily Issues Forum (older adpt) Experts Gr
I don't know what your birthmother is thinking, but whatever it is, it is WRONG. You had nothing to do with her getting pregnant and having a baby. To simply discard her own flesh and blood without explanation or even contact is wrong. I don't care how she felt about the impregnator (bdad) or what the circumstances of the conception were --- her disregard is despicable. You deserve an explanation and SOME consideration.
She's doing a wrong to her raised daughter, too, in keeping siblings apart ... making their choices FOR them.
You may be better off NOT having a relationship with this woman. It may not be healthy for either of you, but I do hope that one day you and your half-sister can meet, and perhaps get to know one another.
I'm so sorry; I wish I could be of more help. Why not drop in on the Rejected Reunion Chat here at
http://www.adopting.org/chat.html. It is on every Friday night from around 9:00 / 9:30 PM EST in the Rejected Chatroom.
On Monday nights at 7:30 PM EST there is an ADOPTEE Chat moderated by Karen DeLuca. You might find talking to other adoptees helpful. You'll find them in the Adoptee Chatroom.
Please hang in there ... you don't give your age, and maybe the time just isn't right ... I do hope she wakes up.
Hugs, Carol Bird,
Birthmom in reunion with dtr 15 years.