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I hope it is okay that I post here. I am not a birthparent but a hopeful adoptive parent. We started the process this summer and a few times my younger sister "joked" with me saying things like, if I have a baby would you adopt it? I answered her no and said that relative adoption can be a very difficult situation. Also my husband and I had decided to try and pursue a semi-open adoption (dh is really not comfortable with open and I'm unsure too.).

To make a long story short, my little sister is pregnant. After telling my husband, HE came to me and said that if she decides to place, we should let her know we are interested. He feels that through prayer this may have been what God had meant for us and it just took this situation to open our eyes to open adoption. No one has yet to sit my sister down and have a real heart-to-heart talk with her. So her intentions are really not known and we do not know anything about the baby's father (we know of him, but we've never met him.).

So I was wondering how other families who have been through relative adoption made it work. We live within 45 minutes of one another and are a pretty close family. I would appreciate anyone's input about this. Also, knowing my sister's personality, I don't think she would agree or take counseling seriously (whether she places or parents, I believe she could use it just to get through the pregnancy). Any suggestions on talking with her about that?

Thank you,
Tammi