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Hi katybird,
I hope your search for the right a-parents goes well. I know a lot of parents that are actually hurt if tha adoptive parents don't want a role in their birth childs life. And I know parents that don't want any thing to do with the birth family. You will have to form a relationship with them. Be as open and honest about your life as possable. Stick to your beliefs. If you want an open adoption then make a plan of how you would like it to work. Every thing will be changable. Plans always look better on paper.
As for legally enforcing the plan. I don't know how that would work. For me I just want my son to know who he is and where he came from. I do know the family very well, and they all know that they can call for a visit any time and we will set up a time to visit. They are also very good at asking how I am explaining things to him so we can have a united front. The only one that does not have a label( grandma, aunt, brother,uncle) is b-mom. Altho we talk about it in front of him. Why does she not have a label? Well, he is 3 and does not get it yet. I guesss when he starts to put it together that he has a brother that does not live with us then he will be comprehending more.
Good luck in your search. I am sure you will find the perfict family for you and your child.
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