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It IS hard!!
From reading your post, I don't know if you are a birth mother or someone who is pregnant and planning on placing, but...
I am a birth mother (placed in 11/01) and I work with children in foster care. It is still hard for me when a child comes through our system that is female and has a birthday around the same time. It is very hard to deal with sometimes.
If you are pregnant and placing, it may help to let people know your plans, so that they may be more sensitive to your situation and avoid asking questions about your preparing for the baby's arrival or what you will name it. You may have to be a little assertive and educate people about what you want and don't want. As far as teaching your students, do you have a teacher's aide that could take over this part of your job? A parent volunteer? Or, perhaps the parents of the babies that you'll be bringing in can kind of run the show for you.
If you have already given birth and placed, the same kind of tactics can be used, but you may also want to make sure you are doing some healing through counseling. Or make a scrapbook, write a poem, dedicate a song, plant a tree, write your story out...all these things are ways of letting go, healing, and moving foreward.
Good luck!
Hippiechick,
bmom of twins born 11/14/01
mom of daughter born 6/6/03
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