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As Katiemill said:

"To sum up: From a Christian perspective, I think that each person needs to lay their expectations and desires before the Lord...and let Him guide their decision. Their path may still guide them through some pain and disappointment...however, the Lord will be able to bless the fruits of their efforts."


My perspective is as an a-parent to "special needs" children from the state foster system, and also as the spouse of a child reared by foster parents from the time he was 2 years old. (foster child, in same foster home for many years, adoption was not an option, old laws, long story...) We have tried to be open in an age appropriate way with the information we have about biological family, so the kids know the generalities of why they were adopted and who their bio parents are, etc.

If the kids desired to search for their bio families they have open acess to this information in our state when they turn 21. (? or is it 18? can't remember) If the kids consulted me as to my opinion I would remind that that as Christians we are to do all things with and through the love of Christ. So prayerful consideration of attitude and motivation should be the rule. As an a-parent I would be concerned mostly about safety issues if my children wanted to contact bio family, but I do not believe that "forbidding" them to do something that God was prompting them to do would be within my responsibility as a Christian parent.