[Barksum]

I really appreciated your post.

I haven't figured out how to respond in just the way I would like to the "Saint" comments people give us. People tell us "how lucky" our children are to have "gotten" us. I always want to squint my eyes at them and go "Huh?!", but haven't had the guts to do that yet. Usually I say that we look at it the other way...we are so very blessed by having such wonderful child. And of course they all just smile and say, "Oh, only a saint would think like that!" Ergh.

My all time stumper comment was, "I just couldn't take someone else's child like you do." I just looked down at the floor and mumbled something inane, while frantically trying to figure out what she had just said. Did she think we "took" this child from someone else? Did she mean that SHE couldn't love a child who wasn't biologically hers? (I decided to put that spin on it because I don't think the lady was being malicious.) Or...well, what?! I've wondered if she got home and beat her forehead with her hands and said, "Stupid! Stupid! Why did I SAY that?!" or if she even realized how it sounded. LOL