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lizpappas,
I'm not willing to say what county I'm in... I've seen too many agencies get mad about people posting complaints and questions and stuff. I decided admitting my state was close enough without being too close. It'll stay a non-committal "my county" and "my agency" as long as it can!
I'm surprised your agency hasn't talked to you about the issues even newborn adoptees can have. You still may need that settling-in period even though he's been in your home so long already. Even children adopted as newborns can develop attachment problems. Children adopted as infants can often remember their previous families - although it is not a cognitive memory, rather a memory rooted in smells and sounds but a memory just the same.
Not allowing any more children in a home with a foster-adopt child who isn't finalized yet is fairly standard practice. Take the settling-in period and be glad for it. He's going to be your first adopted, and deserves the chance to bond solely with the two of you before you rush off to help new children who have more needs and problems than he does. He did experience abuse or neglect, as well as multiple caregivers, and he does need the extra one-on-one time to prevent problems further down the road.
OK, I'm off my soapbox now...you probably know all that and it was just your eagerness talking in your last post. My husband's employeer says we'll have our form in the standard 6-8 weeks, so as you can tell, I'm working hard on learning patience!
Good luck at your finalization!
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