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Hi guys.......
I found all your posts very interesting and of course, everybody has a different experience or opinion. (that's what makes this forum so valuable.)
Anyway, just wanted to let you know what our experience was. We started our adoption journey in late February, this year. We handed in our paperwork and started the homestudy process. We did our fingerprints and classes, etc, thinking that we were just going to adopt a legally free older child from foster care. Seemed easy enough. In mid March, we got a call from our case worker that a seven month old boy needed immediate placement, but he wasn't legally free. (We had NO idea what that meant) She said are you willing to fost/adopt?? Of course we were! We were so niave. He was placed with us April 10th and we started the journey of court cases, bmother visits.....up to four a week sometimes!!! We had no idea what we were getting into.
Our caseworker kept saying, don't worry, don't worry, she's not getting him back. Of course, we DID worry....A LOT! Now he is 13 months old, the visits have stopped and his termination in next Wednesday. So, although we weren't intending to do things this way, we have made it through.....almost.....and it was worth it. I don't know if I'll take another legal risk again, but we can't wait to adopt again after his finalization in November.
Luckily for us, it did work out and he will become a permanent part of our family. Not to say that it wasn't nailbitingly difficult, but worth it. Just my two cents.
Liz
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