Well...if everyone thought like your physician and others, whose opinions come to you unsolicited, then special needs kids wouldn't have homes. I believe that fostering and 'special needs' adoptions aren't for everyone. In fact there are very few that are 'cut-out' for it. One has to be highly adaptable, have unconditional love, be able to w/stand numerous heartbreaks, be able to delay gratification, and have an extremely adaptable and understanding spouse and kids where applicable. Sometimes, I think others are highly curious and they are attempting to open up conversation to see 'where you're coming from' so to speak. Though you didn't ask for advice, may I offer a little? Keep doing what you know you are suppose to be doing, those children need you far more than you need anyone's opinion. Don't let anyone allow you to second guess yourself and what you are doing for the children. As you and I both know....those kids give us far more than we could ever think about giving them !! Best wishes in bringing your second little one home. We too are in the process of bringing our 3y.o. little guy home.
