[kalynn]

Hi, I've posted a bit before but not on this board. I've been reading a lot and am very impressed with the board. I'm Mom to a now 4 y/o adopted through social services. She is attractive, very bright and animated, so most people do not realize that she has attachment issues. I am in the process of a second adoption, a 3 year old little boy also through social services. We accepted his referral knowing he has speech problems and is not yet toilet trained. As we get to know him, he is presenting as a wonderful, responsive and happy little boy, but very 'immature'. I would say most of his skills are about a year behind. It doesn't matter at this point, we feel we were chosen for him and I don't think you go into a social services adoption expecting your typical child anyway. However, anyone we have spoken to so far, including our family doctor has not been positive. He urged us to 'reconsider', look into the cost of long term speech therapy and special ed. etc. I know about all this, I'm a Special Ed teacher!! Do you just not say anything to people, and let them figure it out or what?? I find it really disheartening at this point to have people say negative things to us when we are unconditionally opening our hearts and home to a child for life. As I only know too well, anyone at all can have a bio child with special needs. Thanks for listening ... Kalynn.