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Adoption Searches
I think it all points back to the motive of the individuals. I have several cousins that are adopted....two that are now grown. The adoptive mothers of both grown children have openly addressed this issue with their children--and encouraged them to search for their biological parents if they so desire. Both of the a-mothers have even offered to assist them if they'd like. At this time, neither child has desired to find their b-parents.
I want to also point out that the a-families' feelings are not always so open...and I don't believe that their feelings are the
"ruling" reason for conducting or not conducting a search.
My thought is that if the individual keeps an open mind--considering that the other party may not be open to "being found" or open to a relationship after meeting--then it will hopefully keep them from a major disappointment. I think that if all parties are open enough to being completely honest about their reasons for the search--and their feelings about future relationships--then hopefully it will minimize any devastating
effects.
To sum up: From a Christian perspective, I think that each person needs to lay their expectations and desires before the Lord...and let Him guide their decision. Their path may still guide them through some pain and disappointment...however, the Lord will be able to bless the fruits of their efforts.
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