[sweetnoodle]

Renee,
I don't think truth is relative . . . facts are facts. It's in the interpretation of facts that emotions arise. Some people are emotionally wired in such a way that they would not be tortured or suffer by knowing the truth of their origins, in fact they may suffer more by not knowing. I feel I was that way. But, I concede, there are people that are emotionally wired the opposite way who would be devasted to find out the facts of their conception.

I do think there are factions who will always generalize and say one way is best: either knowing or not knowing, bio or adopted. And, I am not meaning to generalize. My point is, that I agree, you cannot generalize, and a case by case approach is what is warranted.

However, we are talking about a child, who will one day become an adult, who will be like many adoptees; either the group that is ambivilent about searching out their origins, or one who wants to know!

Also, I do not think one's identity if fully formed by either genetics or environment (that age old argument, also generalizations), but both!

Sincerely,