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foster parents
We too adopted boys that had been in the same foster home for 3 years... I had fostered once before and knew how emotionally difficult it was for us, so I attempted to be respectful of the foster mom. For that first month when we just exchanged phone calls, I really just got to know HER and became her friend. I knew that her support of the adoption was so needed for the boys to feel secure with the move.
Now 4 years later ... we still keep in regular contact through phone, letters and pics. The sad thing is, of all her kids that she has fostered (over 30) i am the ONLY adoptive parent that keeps in contact. I feel so sad for those kids - because me agknowledging their foster family is agknowledging a big part of their life ... and helps them to know that they were loved before us too. She has been a wonderful resource to help me, especially when the boys first arrived ... you know ... E is doing this what would you do ... and she could offer me advice.
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