[kalynn]

Hi, I'm in the process of my second adoption through foster care. I myself have never fostered. The little guy we are adopting (3 years old) has been in his current foster home for about 5 mos. Can anyone help me understand what it is like for the foster mother to be losing this child? She is fairly young and new to fostering and has her own child. Her mother has fostered for a long time so she is familiar with the process. I am having difficulty connecting with the foster mother during this time when we should be coming together to meet the needs of this child moving from one household into another ... It seems like she doesn't like us ... she called the social worker on us to 'tattle' about a discussion we had on our second visit. She had our phone number and if she had concerns she could have talked to us directly. Now I feel even more like I don't know how to interact with her if she is going to take apart every thing we talk about and run to the social worker ... Hoping for some perspective or advice. Thanks, Kalynn.