[Diana H.]

I get annoyed with people telling me that I will get pregnant now that we have adopted. First of all, I know I can still get pregnant...carrying them to term is the problem, and miscarriages are not fun. Second of all, I don't want another baby. I would NOT be happy (at first) to find out I'm pregnant at this point in my life. I wouldn't mind having a third child, but I would rather adopt an older child now (hubby says "no", but I keep hoping that will change). Third, adoption was my first choice all along. I tried to get pregnant first because that's what my husband wanted, but we planned to adopt, anyway, because that's what I wanted. It seems that people often ask me why we adopted, and they aren't satisfied until I admit that we are infertile! They have a hard time accepting the fact that adoption was my first choice. I do have a biological child from a previous marriage, but I wanted to adopt before having him, too. Some of this probably doesn't apply to your talk, but I just needed to rant a bit since I just got back from a family reunion and had to deal with a clueless aunt. She even pointed to my biological son and asked, "Is that your real son?" ARGH! I answered, "That's my biological son." I wish I would have added that they're both my "real" sons, but I decided to give her a break since she's pretty old and meant no harm.