[lucyjoy]

I've spent the last four years trying to find any and every opportunity to help my son, now 13. No doctors/therapists offer any hope for any kind of future. T's a very angry boy whose brain is damaged by someone's alcohol abuse before his birth, abuse by his bmomand her boyfriend, seven years of abuse in the system. We've tried every kind of treatment we could find, special schools, home school. He's made progress, but the last year has been very trying with very little progress. Is it time to accept that he's gone as far as he can and maybe just try to make his life a little more fun? Should we start looking for assisted living and work programs for the diabled that he may need to live later on? Or do we keep pushing in as much as we can and researching and trying new treetments that may or may not work? Should we spend more time on social skills than life training and education? I know that there is more he could learn if he had the desire, but he doesn't. He spends all his energy avoiding anything and everything that may pose a challenge and would be perfectly happy to be left alone with a pair of shoes to play with if noone bothered him. How do you know when to stop and when to keep going? I feel like everyone has been working on his life but him. That would be o'kay if he would show even the slightest interest in his own life. I've tried not working on his life and letting him live with the consequences. He was perfectly fine with that as long as noone bothered him(that darn law about education keeps getting in his way) . I'm tired. I'm out of ideas and I see no light at the end of the tunnel (nor do any of the professionals I've consulted). Anyone have any suggestions?