connor,
I agree with you about he similarities between tthe process of coming out as adopted and coming out as LGBT. I think both are concerned with the nature of invisibility and the desire of straight folk / biological families to reinscibe their dominance as "normal" in society and, in effect, render irrevelant those whose lives experience is different.
I'm an artist and I've started a project called the "biological father" which intends to explore the nature ofbiological relatioships between fathers and sons by exploring what it might be like for me to look in the face of someone to whom I'm biologically related. There's an element of eroticism in the work that i didn't anticipate when i started the project -- and I'm looking for other LGBT people with whom I ight discuss the experiecne they have thinking about these issues.
The work can be viewed at:
http://clarkelane.tripod.com/paintings/id8.html
My main home page is
http://clarkelane.com
Please feel free to contact me.
Pete
clarkelane@mac.com