Colin,
What words would you prefer?
No, I am not being sarcastic, I am a birthmother who takes the concerns of adoptees seriously, and I would truly like to know. I want to understand adoptees' perspectives, because my son is an adoptee.
I'm sure I've never personally used the term, "Since I gave you up...", because I do not address my son in the first person when posting on this forum. I know he is not here to read my words, so there's not much point in addressing them to him.
However, I MAY at some point have said something like "Since I gave my child up...", or "Since I placed my child for adoption...". It had not occurred to me that this might be offensive to adoptees.
You are under no obligation to explain or clarify WHY this is offensive. If it is, I will avoid it. However, it would help me if you could suggest some alternate phrase that would be less offensive to you. Any suggestions/ insight into what adoptees might be feeling is always welcome and appreciated, as far as I'm concerned.
BTW, I love your thread with your BMom and brother! I'm so happy you've found them.
Best wishes, Sharon
