As an adoptee I have a problem with the term "since I gave you up".
What is this really supposed to mean? It doesn't really validate any terms on the adoptees side of things.
It really is okay for any bMOM to use it, because it does describe a self induced loss.
But for others, a third party for instance, to use the term does not give the child a voice. It completely validates the birth mother yet leaves the loss of the child unexpressed.
I am just trying to explain in words an uneasy feeling i have for the child affected inside of me every time i hear that term. Am i wacked for still being 36 years old and still feeling unvalidated here?
Are there are any other adoptees out there who experienced anything similar? Please post
Colin