emmy98 is right. my husband and I took custody of a newborn infant right from the hospital. the birthmom and BF had revoked their parental consent. however, there is a waiting period between the time that is signed and the the time a lawyer can petition the court for an adoption hearing - i believe it is 40 or 45 days. even then, until the hearing, at which time the adoption is finalized, the Bparents can change their minds. in our case, because of a problem with filing the paperwork, our hearing was one month later than it should have been. three days before the hearing, the birthmom had convinced the BF (and his mom) that they should keep the child (they were both teenagers). on 9/11/01, we were sitting in our lawyers office crying, going over our options and listening as both the twin towers and our lives were crumbling around us. a week later, we turned over our son to his birth parents, he was 3.5 months old. it was an awful experience and i would not wish that on anyone. the laws in PA favor birth parents. i do understand that people can change their minds and sometimes need time to do it but in this case, we served as nothing more than free child care while the birthmom used the potential of adoption as a way to get both the BF and his parents to give her support so she could keep her child. her situation was difficult but she took advantage of us financially and emotionally. i only pray that she is half the mother she said she would be. anyway, BEWARE!
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