Hi ALL--Being a bmom of Very early 1984 I can certainly understand what you are saying!!! Open adoption was unheard of, yet most of us made our choices willingly and unselfishly!! I have often wished that my adoption would have been opened, but no sense in looking back. It truly does not good to wish--19 years latter!!! Everything was kept more of a secret in those days than it is today, but hopefully that is changing. Trout--I echo your feelings--ALL my serious boyfriends new before we got to serious, but it was never talked about. My friends and I really did not discuss it much. It was just not mentioned, but I certainly carried it around in my heart!! Boy, did I miss that baby!!! Love to all my Eighties Ladies!!!
S Pete