thanks for all the encouraging responses! we're really excited about becoming moms, and it's good to hear that other gay couples have had good experiences. We're going through a nonprofit agency that has a special program for older/waiting kids & can help us work with DSS in pretty much any state. We're finishing up our training now and getting ready to begin the homestudy.
vbandsf, that's so exciting that you were just matched! be sure to post again and let us know how everything goes with the first meeting.
Dadfor2, thanks for your kind words. You sound like a great dad! JRo, we can only have 1 of us on the birth cert initially too, but we have been told it will be fairly easy to do a second parent adoption later to add the other name. Does NC allow that?