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keeping our promises
I appreciate the honesty of your post regarding your adoption experience. Maybe it was because when you started the adoption you thought you wanted it closed, maybe that is what the adoptive parents you chose expectations were....
I know our minds will not change about wanting the adoption to be open if the bmom/bparents are comfortable with it. I know this because we already have one adopted child and we are very open with that adoption. because another family in our neighborhood has a daughter that is adopted and their adoption is also open and we have discussed it.. and again, because our reasons are very child-focused. We know it is right for our child to know his/her birthparents. Tt is the truth that although we are Griffin's mom and dad, we are not biologically related. That does not make us love him any less. When we are chosen by bparents to have another child to love, it will be the same way. Nothing can change the truth, not an opinion or a feeling, it is the truth and that is what's right.
I hope that your situation improves so that your child will get to know you and your courageous and loving decision to place him/her with a family who loves him also.
-Julie
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