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Open Adoption
I am a birthmother, who chose open adoption. The reason being, is for one... I got to interview the families and pick the one I felt would be best for my daughter. Second... the future contact part! Definitely! My daughter is now 7 and I still receive picture every 6 months! Being an open adoption, I also got to have the 'mom' in the delivery room. She can tell her all about the day she was born. And whether it hurt to look at the picture or not.... I had them... and it was up to me, when the time was right to look at them. Atleast I had them there for the option. Believe it or not... they have been more help that hurt. Yes, it hurts to get the pictures. To see my daughter being raised by someone else.. more of a pride thing though. They can give her things I can't.... but more than anything it reinforces the decision I made. Seeing how well she is in fact taken care of and loved, and surrounded by family and those that love her!
No matter what, I will never regret my decision... it was best for her and me at the time.... and no matter how good I am doing now.... she is where she belongs!
I think open is the best option! Personally! I had a great experience with it! As bitter-sweet as it was.
Jenifer
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